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Friday, 29 November 2013

Internet Dating!



I don’t understand internet dating. Like seriously, if you want to kiss your boyfriend are you going to Facebook him a ‘kiss’ chat emotion. If you are angry at him for not coming online at a given time (times zones are such bullies), will you yell at him over Skype! ‘Love over the internet’… Give me a break. There is no intimacy, nothing tangible between you and your internet lover other than your laptop or your computer. And, even if you do meet up regularly over Skype is there are certain things needs that have to be fulfilled. Like, playing Outlast together or going shopping or watching movies… Wait! What were you guys thinking? Right that… well, if you have enough knowledge- which shall be helpful in the future, you should be well aware about the workings of nature and how certain things or rather ‘functions’ cannot be exactly- how should I put this, exercised effectively if well your medium is through the internet.

Moving on from the previous awkward paragraph… I don’t get it how two strangers decide to open up their lives to someone who you know next to nothing about. How can you let that person see your pictures, your statuses, your work place and credentials, your family and your unhealthy obsession with a certain boy band! (Maybe the last one is just for me...?)

Nevertheless, most relationships are made on the internet. I don’t understand how there is so much trust involved because you are not ‘with’ your boyfriend/girlfriend, how do you know if he/she is not cheating on you. How can you tell if this person if serious with you or if you’re just a past time? Basically, if you can buy shoes and clothes on the internet, you can even get a ready-made husband/boy friend from anywhere around the world!

I have heard so many cases where internet Prince Charming turned Internet Jack the ripper. Let’s refresh our Word-Meaning knowledge and for the last time understand the true meaning of love, the significance of love, the purity in the word ‘love’.

Love noun \ˈləv\
: A feeling of strong or constant affection for a person
: Attraction that includes sexual desire: the strong affection felt by people who have a romantic relationship
: A person you love in a romantic way

Yes, I’m serious; ‘Love’ is the most overrated and abused word used by this generation. Do I really have to explain myself?
Yes, I have too... 

You see no matter how ‘modern’ you think you are when it comes to love; deep down we all have our ‘dream love’ and yes we want the ‘happy endings’ the ‘sappy love stories’ because we are human and we humans “are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love." -Robert Fulghum

See the thing is that, when you are older and wiser and stronger you’ll be able to differentiate between the right and the wrong. I’m not saying that Internet Dating is absolutely horrid, all I’m saying is that in our quest to find ‘true love’; is it worth being in a relationship with someone who isn’t here right now with you. Is it worth loving a person, whose condolences will be given over the phone? Is it worth waiting and talking and falling and loving with someone who you may or may never meet?
Maybe, you will work it out. Maybe there is a proverbial silver lining to this quirky relationship and yes there are many cases of happy endings. Therefore I ask you again, if you have such a strong desire to be loved and respected, why would you trick yourself into believing an irrational phantasm?

I have heard cute stories of how an ‘accidental friend request’ got two lovers together. How a ‘Facebook picture’ changed a person’s life. You will not believe it, I know this girl who found the ‘perfect guy’ over the internet and they have been together for over a year now.

PS: We live in the 21st Century where relationship breakdown faster than Maruti 800s so when I hear a relationship that has even lasted for more than a month... It’s miracle!
 
Internet Dating is a fad which will (hopefully) fade away. It sure has its risks but I think that what most people say right: 
‘Take a leap of faith because your love is among 100,000 of people who use social-networking sites. You’ll find him/her, refreshing or re-tweeting one another’. And, there starts your love story, ‘How I Found Your Mother on Tumblr! 

And finally, here is a beginner's guide to Internet Dating and I hope it serves you well and that you do find someone your relationship sails like the Titanic greatest ship!